Look beyond your own trigger!
At some point or another, you’ll be faced with objections in the workplace. In an environment of many different personalities, work ethics, and attitudes, it’s bound to happen. Avoiding differences in opinion is near-impossible, and certainly not conducive to attaining a resolution if things do end up boiling over.
When cooperating with others we need to compromise now and then. If we want to arrive at a shared decision but cannot convince our peers to go all the way along with us, we need to settle for less than we really prefer a compromise. A compromise, as we shall elaborate the concept in this paper, is a special kind of agreement based on mutual concessions or sacrifices.
Everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact. Everything we see is a perspective, not the truth.” — Marcus Aurelius
People will talk. They always have. And they always will. No matter what you do or say, how you behave, the way you walk or dress, how you act, or the decisions you make, will always be scrutinized by others. It’s the nature of the masses.
Let us see that why you shouldn't listen to people always!
1) People will always find someone to talk about
Throughout history, people have always found someone to talk about. They’ve ganged up on those they perceived as different, or in some way a threat to their own existence. This is steeped in our society and culture and goes back towards the dawn of modern man. We don’t live in a perfect world where everyone is the same, with the same set of skills or upbringings or talents. No. We live in a wide and diverse world, where genetic mutations from the dawn of time have led to an overall diversity in the species on this planet. Within every species, there are countless more diversities.
2) You should know your self-worth, not people's opinions
However, too often, we do define our self-worth by an approval rating. We do allow what others say or think about us to influence how we feel about ourselves. The happiness barometer is often influenced by the he-said-she-said pipeline. That grapevine makes it to us in some way or another, whether electronically or verbally, and we feel the effects of that, similar to a ground-altering earthquake.
3) They don’t know your journey, where you’ve been, or where you’re heading, so you don't have to give a damn
I recall a powerful story that I once heard about a man who was on a subway. He sat there on the subway, watching as a father was completely neglecting his three children. Two small boys and a little girl were simply out of control, and he was oblivious to the fact. He looked at the man in disdain. How could he ignore his children? How could he allow them to disrupt the subway ride for other passengers? Passengers who were too nice or too ambivalent to say anything.
4) Trust your intuition and who you are deep down inside
One reason why you absolutely shouldn’t listen to the opinion of other people is that you should trust your intuition. You should trust who you are and why you’re doing the things that you’re doing. The most successful people in the world were ridiculed and shamed the most times for their dreams. How much do you think they were made fun of and scoffed at after failing over and over again?
It’s the problem, not the person
Above all, remember that different opinions often present an opportunity to learn. Use them as case studies in team-building exercises, look for the positives in the situation and build on their resolutions in the appropriate manner.
At the end of the day, you’ll be glad you did. You’ll be glad you stayed in the realm of positivity rather than flinging yourself into the ring of negativity.
Learn to face reality and I am sure you will be able to overcome your obstacles.