Losing someone close to you can the most traumatizing phase of your life,when one is surrounded by pain and nothing seems to be going right. Grieving for someone who isn't in your life anymore is totally normal , never ever think that you are a fool for stressing out.Any kind of loss can cause grief like death of a loved one , breakup etc.
There are tons of myths related to the grieving process like 'if you don't cry , you aren't sorry about the loss' , 'grieving lasts a year or two' , 'moving on means forgetting about the loss' and the list goes on ...But let me tell you , healing from a loss takes time and we can't tell how much time it'll take , he/she may never cry , but fall into depression(which is worst scenario) and yes , moving on in your life doesn't mean you forgot about the loss , it's just a part of healing!
Handling the pain
~Acknowledge your feelings
Coping with the loss of a loved one brings up almost every emotion imaginable. There are times when more than one emotion seems to take hold at once, and you may feel as if you're “going crazy.” It's natural to feel this way, as it's normal to experience a number of different feelings.
In order to heal, you have to face the pain. Trying to avoid feelings of sadness and loss only prolongs the grieving process. Unresolved grief can also lead to complications such as depression, anxiety, substance abuse, and health problems.
~Friends and family
These are the people you always rely on , especially during difficult times.Rather than avoiding them, draw friends and loved ones close, spend time together face to face, and accept the assistance that’s offered. Often, people want to help but don’t know how, so tell them what you need—whether it’s a shoulder to cry on, help with funeral arrangements, or just someone to hang out with.
Sometimes, you fail to express your true feelings to even your close friends and family.That's when you seek professional help and it's perfectly okay to do so.
I hate how some cultures (including Indian) stereotype people who visit a therapist and hardly even believe the idea of seeking professional help to heal , it's totally normal if it's becoming a positive part of your healing.
When you have a particular hobby , your mind remains fresh and passing time don't looks like a problem.Hobbies and interests helps you focus on positive things rather than thinking about the loss.There’s comfort in routine and getting back to the activities that bring you joy and connect you closer to others that eventually helps you come to terms with your loss and aid the grieving process.
~Time doesn't matters
Remember , your healing process is yours , no one is capable of telling you how much time you should take to grieve and heal.One may take just a month and other may take years , we can't predict , just give time and you'll know once you're completely healed.Moving on is a part of healing , don't let peoples' opinions come in the way.
This is the most significant point if you truly want to heal , you have to believe that the loss is temporary and there are lot of things beyond this grief.Have faith in god , pray and meditate.
"While grief is fresh , every attempt to divert only irritates.You must wait till it be digested,and then amusement will dissipate the remains of it."-Samuel Johnson
What's gone cannot be brought back again , give yourself time.Remember that losing someone is difficult but not worth your mental peace.Embrace your life, be kind to yourself and know that you will wake one day and find the pain is less, and life can go on.