As a kid, I was always very fascinated with the superheroes like He-Man, Shazam, and Superman. I believed that if I were in a vulnerable situation ever, the boring and the powerless Prince Adam of Eternia would pick his sword and say “By the power of Grayskull…. I have the power", and just like that turn into the superhero called HE-MAN, and I would be saved. I also believed that superheroes cannot exist on planet Earth. They can only live on other planets.
Only when I grew older that I realized, not all superheroes are superhumans with blessed powers.
There are not one but countless superheroes living silently amongst us.
Two such heroes are my parents. As a child, I would always wonder how they could always do everything and solve all my problems.
Then later in my adolescence, I idolized movie actors for the larger-than-life image that they carried. I wanted to be like them, just anyone at least, but I never felt that I was special in any way, forget having superpowers, because I did not feel I was strong mentally or physically for that matter. I was just a mediocre. One in a trillion who could be ignored easily.
"She wasn’t looking for her knight, she was looking for a sword" – Atticus.
I was lucky enough to not have had major problems in life. But no one could help me with my problems. They were mine and I was had to deal with them by myself. I had to learn my lessons the hard way.
One situation I can recall was in 2008. Having a job offer in hand, was the culmination point of 4 year-long struggles and studies. But the global recession had other plans and all the offers were put on hold indefinitely and it did hit me hard. Without a plan, I was clueless. The anger, dissatisfaction, confusion, and sadness was just too overwhelming. I just had to pick myself up and start mending things by myself, even if it meant restarting because no one knew what could be done to improve my state of mind. I did it and in just a few months I was thriving, and life was back on track! I learned that I alone have control over my past, present, and future more than anyone.
Another situation I remember is from 2012 in form of a disappointingly bad boss who was verbally very abusive, and this affected my personal life, physical and mental health. The negativity around me seeped in and broke my confidence. But despite all this, I was back again to rebuild myself. This time I promised I would not give up on myself without a fight. I discovered a calm and introvert like me could fight against power to protect my self-respect and, I was quite successful in doing that. I learned that I could fight for myself even in the most difficult situations.
In my personal life too, I have problems because of my bad choices, I am obese, and I fall off the wagon too. Despite this, I still wake up, push myself to exercise every single day because my daughter thinks that I am a superhero and a supermom, so she wants to be like me.
So, with my own experience, I can confidently say “You have to be your own hero!”. Why? Because,
1) No one is going to do that for you. If you think someone else is your savior. Nope! Not happening! Because no one owes you anything to be there always to save you from your problems.
2) You have faced the situation; you are the best person to know how to come out of it too. You are the most informed and logically correct judge for your problem. At the most others can guide you but no one can pull you out.
3) If expect someone else to be your hero, you are vesting the power in the other person's hands. Never think you are powerless.
4) Last but not least, if you are a parent, teacher, or anyone who is around children or young people, you could be an inspiration. You might be a critical building block in the making of a hero.
In closing, I would like to say I may not have faced the toughest of situations in life but surely, I am ready if I must because I know no one is going to come and I am strong enough to face them all by myself. Your problems can be bigger and tougher problems than mine but trust me each of us has a hidden hero inside us who will come out when you need him/her to.
You are just enough for yourself. If you can’t, no one else can!
You are A BORN HERO. All you must do is believe the hero exists and just call out!
Be like a phoenix and rise again from the ashes!