WHAT PERSONALITY DEVELOPMENT
According to the Cambridge International Dictionary Of English, ‘your personality is the type of person you are, which is shown by the way you behave , feel and think . ‘Personality, according to the Longman Dictionary of Contemporary English, is the ‘whole nature or character of a person’. How a person behaves, feels, and thinks, how he conducts himself in a given set of circumstances is largely determined by the state of his mind. Mere external experience r a person’s speech or manners are only fringes of one’s personality. They do not reflect the real personality. Personality development in the real sense refers to deeper levels of a person. So a study of our personality should start from a clear grasp of the nature of our mind, and how it functions.
CONTROL YOUR NEGATIVE EMOTIONS
We must have these four sorts of ideas. We must have friendship for all; we must be merciful towards those that are in misery, when people are happy, we ought to be happy and to wiped we must be indifferent so with all subjects that come before us if the subject is a good one we shall feel towards it if the subject of the thought is one that is miserable we must be merciful towards it. If it is good we must be glad. If it is evil we must be indifferent. These attitudes of the mind towards the different subjects that come before it will make the mind peace full. Most of our difficulties in our daily lives comes from being unable to hold our minds in this way for instance if a man does evil to us instantly we want to react evil and every reaction of evil show as that we are not able to hold the chitta down it comes out in waves towards the object and we loose our power very reaction in the form of hearted or evil is so much loss the mind and every evil thought or deed of hatred or any thought of reaction if it is controlled will be laid in our favour it is not that we lose by thus restraining our self we are gaining infinitely more than we suspect. Each time we suppress hearted or a feeling of anger it is so much good energy stored up in our favour that piece of energy will be converted into the higher powers. Every vicious thought will rebound, every thought of hatred which you may have thought , in a cave even , is stored up , and will one day come back to you with tremendous power in the form of some misery here . If you project hatred and jealousy , they will rebound on you with compound interest no power can avert them; when once you have put them in motion , you will have to bear them , Remembering this will prevent you from doing wicked things. The great secret is – absence of jealousy. Be always ready to concede to the opinions of your brethren, and try always to conciliate. That is the whole secret .Fight on bravely! Life is short! Give it up to a great cause.
CHANGE YOURSELF FIRST
We have seen that it is the subjective world that rules the objective. Change the subject and object is bound to be purified. We are becoming more and more busy about our neighbors and less and less about ourselves .The world will change if we change if we are pure , the world will become pure .The question is why I should see evil in others .I cannot be miserable when I was a child , do not do so now . Thus the man that has practiced control over himself cannot be acted upon by anything outside; there is no more slavery for him. His mind has become free. Such a man alone is fit to live well in the world .We generally find men holding two opinions regarding the world. some are pessimists and say “how horrible this world is , how wicked “ some others are optimists and say how beautiful this world is ” how wonderful” to those who have not controlled their own minds the world is either full of evil or a best mixture of good and evil . Nothing will then work upon us as good or evil; we shall find everything to be in a proper place, to be harmonious. The more we grow in love and virtue and holiness, the more we see virtue and holiness outside. Every step that has been really gained in the world has been gained by love; criticizing can never do any good, it has been tried for thousands of years.