Mr Sharma, sipping his evening tea, said to his relatives, “My daughter has filled my heart with pride by getting All India Rank 1000 in Jee Advance. May God give daughter like mine to everyone. By the way, what is the rank of your daughter?” The embarrassed relatives squeamishly said that their daughter burnt the midnight oil but couldn’t make it to the IIT’s. The relatives gave as many excuses as they could and Sharma ji belittled them as much as he could. After reaching home, those relatives taunted and warned their daughter to stand on her own feet as soon as possible otherwise they’ll fix her marriage. In a fraction of a second, her sparkling eyes turned misty. With a wracking body, constricted throat, trembling lips and teary eyes blurring her vision; she rushed to her room.
In India, this is the case of 7/10 students. Barely 2-3% of students are interested in what they’re doing. Rest of them do what their parents and teachers want them to do. It won’t be wrong to call them the living robots, right? In order to be accepted socially, you must have the perfect looks, the perfect career (either medical or non-medical), an MBA or MBBS degree and a luxurious lifestyle. Parents don’t give their children the independence to choose the field of their choice. No wonder why the cases of depression and suicide are increasing with each passing day.
If you’re a student going through the same, here are a few tips which will help you to get out of such nerve-wracking situations-
1.) Stop prioritising society’s and parental opinions before your own’s. You know yourself much better than anyone else including your parents. Don’t you?
2.) Spend time with yourself as much as you can. 30-40 minutes a day is a good start.
3.) Stop criticising yourself. Don’t drag yourself into this false thinking that you’re a useless person because people make fun of you and stuff. Believe me, you are precious. The only thing you have to do is to find that gem which the Almighty has gifted you and it’s inside of you. One of the ways to find that gem is to spend time with yourself.
4.) Make a list of the things that make you happy. Do them often. Out of those things, pick the ones that you would love to turn into a career. Search as much as you can about that field. I promise you won’t be disappointed.
5.) Last but not the least, read as many books as you can. Do meditation everyday as it calms down your mind and increases your concentration power.
If you have clean water to drink, healthy food to eat, a house to live-in and doting parents then you are one of the luckiest people in the world. Don’t complain and pay gratitude for small things in life. Do what you love and love what you do. Stop existing and start living.