"Why Kids Lie and What Parents Can Do About It"
Children are like the mud, and the parents are like the potter. The way the mud is shaped by a potter to make it a pot or to make it in a definite shape in the same way parents shape the way they want their child to be. Parents are the first teacher in a child’s life. Parents play an important role to make their child learn about honesty and dishonesty. Parents never teach something wrong to their child but due to different factors the child starts lying, and it becomes the matter of concern for the parents.
Why do children lie?
Young children aging 4-5 generally starts lying, they make long stories and tell. It is normal activity and done by almost all children. Rather I should say its child psychology and all the children face this stage.
Learning how to lie is the part of child’s development-but so is learning to tell the truth. When children reach the age to go to school they realize that his /her parents are not the mind reader, he/she can say the things which he/she likes. They might lie more at the school age and can be better at lying. Now the child has better understanding and can lie in a better way. Reaching the age of 8, a child becomes expert in lying and can tell a lie without being caught.
There are different factors due to which children lie:
How parents need to deal with this?
The children should not be praised for telling a lie or parents should not let their child know that lying is ok. Parents can exaggerate their child and make jokes of their lie. Parents should be friendly enough with their child so that their child can share all the thoughts and facts and never lie. Parents should not punish their children for common lies they should be treated in a pleasant way and should try to understand their thoughts. Parents should make their children to understand the consequences of lying. If the child lies frequently then it is ok but lying deliberately is not ok, parents should make their children understand that lying is not ok and take a strict action if lying is in habit. Parent’s needs to focus at child’s changing environment and help him/her to avoid from the situations which will encourage them to lie or makes them feel that lying is ok. Parents should convince their child to understand the effectiveness of honesty, and give their children assurance that he/she will be safe if he/she is honest. This builds the self esteem in their children. Parents should be frank with their children and make them realize that honesty is the best policy.